Get to know COACH UWEM…
The Basics :
Multi-talented
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Leader /
Entrepreneur
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Neurodivergent Mom of 4 Neurodivergent kids
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Former Preacher's Wife turned Pastor & Women's Coach
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The Basics : Multi-talented ⚪ Leader / Entrepreneur ⚪ Neurodivergent Mom of 4 Neurodivergent kids ⚪ Former Preacher's Wife turned Pastor & Women's Coach ▶▶▶
Have you ever looked at your life and wondered,
“How did I get HERE?!”
I have. Many times.
Both in awe of the miracles God was walking me into and also in an aggravated rage when things didn’t turn out the way I meticulously calculated.
I am the founder and CEO of ALL MADE WELL Recovery. Before you go and checkout, stay with me for a sec. Yes, typically, you hear RECOVERY and you immediately assume, “That’s for drug addicts and alcoholics, right?”
WRONG!
At ALL MADE WELL, we work in partnership with leaders, pastors, and entrepreneurs to use recovery principles to lead to powerful authenticity and self-awareness.
Our clients are leading megachurches, speaking to thousands at business events, and want to have the IMPACT that God is calling them into from a place of wholeness.
We work in tandem with their therapists and their mentors because leading WELL requires that we not only heal, but we also #HEALbyEXAMPLE.
And that began with me.
I can’t even pinpoint when it “began”, but God used heartbreak from betrayal trauma and church hurt to lead me closer to the version of me that God had in mind when He spoke my name in heaven. My RECOVERY from betrayal trauma, triggers and feelings of abandonment, self-doubt, and anxiety (to name a few) began with a lot of anger and self-care to calm my nerves, and it became an amazing journey of self-discovery. I found my VOICE. I found ME and the #HolyHotHead was UNLEASHED!!
“I SEE people and I make them feel safe enough to see themselves.”
But God wasn’t done!
As God was healing my relationship with HER and reteaching me how to read Her Word, everything changed.
I learned something that redefined who I was as a daughter of God.
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In Genesis 2:18, the first woman is described as ezer.
It is often translated as a “help meet” which isn’t really a thing.
And then it’s described as a “helper meet for Adam” in other translations.
Better but not quite.
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Ezer is a word that is used to describe 3 types in scripture…
Women, warriors in battle, and God!
Do you feel the weight of that?! When people typically think of a “woman’s role,” do they think of man’s partner in battle, geared up and watching his 6, or do they imagine an assistant, a maid, a secretary of sorts?
Understanding that this word also reflects God puts another spin on it, right?! God is no assistant, helper or sidekick. So ezer is no assistant, helper, or sidekick. Ezer means “help” in the sense of a rescuer or defender.
She represents a warrior who is ABLE to protect and come to the rescue of Adam. I like to imagine that God sees me as more of a Dora Milijae warrior from Wakanda kind of woman, as opposed to a nicely dressed cleaning lady and trophy wife as some seem to prefer.
As God healed my marriage and my heart from years in a church culture that was less than empowering (please feel my side-eye through the screen!), He showed me that there was so much more to the wonder that He created when She breathed Her breath and Her essence and Her power into me.
(I’m not crazy. I talk a lot about the gender of God. I’ll do a blog about it soon. In the meantime, check out this article from Intentional Today.)
I tried for so many years to suppress the intensity in my personality that made me both a threat to those in positions of power and a wonder to those who found safety in my presence.
I was constantly scared of being “TOO MUCH.”
I thought that God only wanted quiet, meek, silent, docile, fit, and perfectly organized neat freak wives…certainly not the opinionated, intellectual, Enneagram 8, D/I on the Disc Assessment, totally scatterbrained, incredibly creative but forgetful woman I saw in the mirror. And God came so intimately close to me and told me without a doubt…
I made you to show them that part of Me (“WHEW!!”),
and I adore you just as you are!
And I finally started to love the person She made and allow her to come to life.
So my heart healed and I learned to love me fiercely!
My marriage healed and we found our groove as matched and equally powerful forces in ministry and parenthood.
But the craziest part…
The world was totally content with me never sharing what God had done.
When I stopped cowering under male leaders who insisted on my submission even when they were wrong…
When I stopped hating myself and started to love the woman looking back at me in the mirror…
When I started teaching and speaking and encouraging other women to love themselves into ACTION…
I was called ARROGANT, INSUBORDINATE, and UNGODLY.
And after all that God had to do to wake me up, I could see through their toxic theology and convert racism as if it were made of clear glass.
And I got LOUDER!
Because I knew God had an assignment for me:
YOU!
So who am I?
I’m a freaking anomaly! I am an artist. I am a writer. I am an amazing generational trauma-slaying mom. I am a SICK designer and brand strategist. I am a wife #healedANDhealing after betrayal trauma from porn addiction and toxic church culture. I am a culturally-aware and intensely protective DOULA! I am the #HolyHotHead coach who desperately wants to see people embrace their stories, heal the wounds, and unleash the THING that God put in them.
In all of my skills and expertise, the goal is the same.